‘The island of Mykonos plays host lovely and serene, without having its summery, cosmopolitan bluster and bustle.’ Photograph: Patrick Ward
“Content Easter” announced my grandmother, Marina, in excess of Christmas dinner exactly 30 years ago. We all looked at every other. There was the odd giggle from youngsters like me, as well young to comprehend the gravity of the statement. It was the second her dementia could no longer be denied. Considering that then, the condition has claimed member after member of my family members, roughly at a rate of one each and every three years. Grandparents, aunts and uncles – of whom there have been numerous, as the two my father and mother have been the 2nd youngest of six – a single by one succumbed.
My mothers and fathers were subsequent. My father, brilliant entrepreneur that he was, found his very own exclusive way of beating it. He died of pancreatic cancer before it took hold properly – in your encounter, Alzheimer’s. My mother was up coming. The sparkle in her eyes has been steadily replaced by a lost confusion over the previous number of many years. We have all gathered at our household house this 12 months for the holidays all her children, significant other individuals and grandchildren. It is unspoken, but understood, that this is probably the final year she will know who we all are.
The island of Mykonos plays host beautiful and serene, with out its summery, cosmopolitan bluster and bustle like an high-priced restaurant during that sweet time in the early hours of the morning, when all the chairs are upside-down on the tables and the personnel count their suggestions, rest their feet, and share a drink and a joke with every other. All around us, Greece is falling apart: economic crisis, hardship, scandal, a Golden Dawn candidate for Athens mayor. Our mother shedding her identity in the midst of a country shedding its own.
And nevertheless … and nevertheless the outcome of our gathering has been magical. The vitality and love in the air is nearly palpable. Deglaze it with a bit of port and you could flip it into sweet familial gravy. We laugh, we eat, we drink, we argue, we perform charades. There are difficult moments, but we support each and every other out, like a climbing group on the difficult slope of ageing, connected to every other by genetic rope. I have discovered to say the word “nappy” to my mother without blushing she has realized to hear it with out protest. Most of all, we adapt. Remarkably swiftly, with really small fuss, we create methods and routines for the person who, soon after providing care for decades, now wants a small bit back.
A rather socialist considered happens – I just cannot support myself. At what level up the scale do these exact same characteristics that we value, admire and reward turn into adverse? At what degree do notions like caring for the elderly, the sick, the vulnerable as a unit, sharing what little one has, supporting every single other, cease to be admirable and turn into the qualities of a sucker? At what stage do we stop currently being an extended family members or neighbourhood or local community or nation and divide into shirkers and employees, strivers and skivers, immigrants and entitled ones? Why do we come to feel the need to change togetherness, help and solidarity with the rhetoric of individualism, profit and sharp elbows?
The relevance of the vacation season is not always religion, decorations, trips abroad or expensive presents. What ever your religion, regardless of whether you are with family members and friends or alone and in difficulty, at residence or away, this is the season for crystallising experiences that last a lifetime – good or poor, they are all formative. Five many years ago, I was homeless, destitute, depressed and desperate. These times are, in retrospect – feel it or not – as precious to me as the ideal Christmas I ever had. Because the holidays are “down-time” time away from perform and every day friction time for introspection and reflection. They are time invested at the memory factory a factory which does not distinguish very good from undesirable, just memorable from not.
So, this is my want to you: no matter what you do, have a memorable day. Take the time to distinguish it from other folks. To congratulate yourself for creating it. In the times in which we live – in these desperately cynical, tough times – it is a enormous achievement. Get a minute to share this second of your life, whether physically, in spirit or on the web … to encase the ideas and emotions of this day in the resin of your soul and fossilise them for eternity.
Many, like my mother, can not do this any far more. Confronted with this reduction (and the frailty of one’s very own mind) that the value of enriching our memory bank whilst we can comes into sharp focus.
Amid the chaos, a memorable Christmas in Mykonos | Alex Andreou
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