I feared my life lacked meaning. Cancer pushed me to find some | Bradford Frost

It was late. I was drunk, nearing my 35th birthday this past May, alone in a dank college dorm room, attending my five-year grad school reunion.

The journal entry I wrote that night was just one line: “I’m not the man I want to be.”

As reunion charades go, nothing about my life actually suggested I was off track. I had ambitious public service aspirations; worked tenaciously; loved fiercely; wrote confidently about equal opportunity and the American dream; bought into and unabashedly endorsed my adopted hometown of Detroit as the best place in the country to work with meaning and purpose. I’d published a book. I’d supported my wife through cancer, relapse, and now four years of remission. I even ran a marathon.

But my journal admission reflected two longstanding personal challenges. First, despite all my accomplishments, I carried a deeply held internal anxiety about being “good enough” to meet my ambitions. Second, I believed my alcohol abuse posed a serious threat to it all. Combined, they exposed my biggest fear: was my life of meaning and purpose as I envisioned it slipping through my fingers? I decided to make a change.

After nearly 20 years of various cycles of alcohol abuse, moderation and abstinence, I concluded I would take one last shot at forging a balanced approach to drinking before turning to sobriety. I’d read about a drug called naltrexone, which is a pill that helps mitigate and manage alcohol cravings and abuse. After sporadically trying it over the prior year, I decided to use it every day for the next three months.

Change came quickly. Two months in, my weekly consumption had cut in half; it would cut in half again by early October. I lost 20 pounds and felt great. In tears, I confided to my wife, “I’ve finally broken through.”

“I’m so proud of you,” my wife replied. “I’m so grateful you found a path that works. Let’s stick with it.”

That was Monday, 10 October. Two days later, I was diagnosed with stage IV kidney cancer. Less than 15% of people with my diagnosis survive five years.

This prompted a swift resolution of my other core challenge: I would no longer allow my anxiety about “living the right way” interfere with being my true self in all dimensions of this life. There would no longer be any distinction between the “representative version” of me online versus living every day with full authenticity. Any other way would be a total waste of time.

I’ve embraced the news as an invitation to be my most honest, vulnerable and wholehearted self. I live every day as fully integrated and courageously as possible. I don’t waver.

One key outlet has been a podcast I started with my wife and best friend called Defending Your Life, where we process in real time the unfiltered experience, fears and reality of dealing with stage IV cancer. I write now more directly, less esoterically, about my experience on my blog.

Although my opportunities to achieve my public service or other professional goals down the road may now be limited by time or strength, I now know they won’t be hobbled by inauthenticity.

Most importantly, I’ve come to recognize that I have lived a life of meaning and purpose. A life rich with love and connection. Some have even generously shared that I’ve lived a life that has inspired others. And, having worked through my demons, I’m able to forgive and be proud of myself too.

Of course, what’s scary now is while there is so much to live for, this disease, despite all the science, love and everything else needed to take it on, could very well ultimately beat me. I had surgery in October and am facing upcoming systemic treatments over the next 6-12 months, and it remains to be seen whether that will make me one of the 3-6% who achieve a “complete response”, or the 94% who end up somewhere else along the kidney cancer progression line.

The truth is, we’re all terminal. I could also get hit by a bus tomorrow. Or I could beat the odds and live till I’m 90. But whatever my time left on this earth, I’ll now endeavor forward with some earned resolve.

I am the person I want to be. I’m not afraid.

I feared my life lacked meaning. Cancer pushed me to find some | Bradford Frost

Escalating kid health crisis feared due to lack of college nurses

The nursing union has warned of an escalating wellness crisis between youngsters due to a lack of college nurses.

The Royal College of Nursing mentioned college nurses had a special possibility to support increase some of the key issues dealing with children’s wellness, notably the enormous problem of childhood weight problems, with one particular in three youngsters in the United kingdom obese and one particular in five classed as obese.

The RCN cites a current government report suggesting that in the Uk 5 much more children underneath 14 died every day than did in Sweden. It stated that whilst overall health issues facing young children continued to accelerate, college nurses had been at threat of even more depletion since of £200m in cuts to public overall health budgets in England.

Regardless of steadily developing numbers of college pupils, figures have proven a decrease in school nurses given that 2010. The RCN stated the amount of nurses need to have improved throughout this time.

There are now far more than eight.four million pupils attending 24,300 schools in England, with virtually 94,000 more children in principal schools than there were a 12 months in the past – a 2.one% improve.

At the yearly RCN School Nurses conference on Sunday, specialists from across the Uk emphasised the crucial importance of college nurses in enhancing the health of the nation’s kids. They explained that by working closely with young children as properly as their dad and mom and teachers, nurses could have an essential role in helping pupils with their psychological and emotional overall health.

The RCN warned that Health Training England has predicted a 24% vacancy price in this spot of nursing. Regional authorities in London, Staffordshire, Middlesbrough and Derbyshire were already taking into consideration cuts to college nurse funding to plug gaps in other regions of public health, it said.

One in 10 pupils suffer from psychological health problems and the Children’s Society’s very good childhood report 2015 positioned the Uk nearly bottom in an global survey of children’s happiness, the RCN said. A lot of of the 6% of young children who have a disability could also benefit from a school nurse, while it said 15.four% of pupils in colleges in England had recognized particular educational demands, equating to 1.3 million pupils.

Fiona Smith, specialist lead for youngsters and youthful people’s nursing at the RCN, said: “School nurses perform a vital part in the health of our children but their perform is so typically ignored – and undervalued. Today’s conference illustrates the wide selection of problems school nurses tackle on a every day basis, from conditions such as epilepsy to behavioural disorders like ADHD.

“They are talented, multi-experienced nursing employees who deserve immense recognition. In contrast to any other health expert, college nurses operate with young children and education workers on a everyday basis. Nevertheless, investment is fundamental if we are to commence solving this crisis in children’s wellness and construct a healthful and prosperous long term population.”

Escalating kid health crisis feared due to lack of college nurses